The word “change” is generally confused with Lampedusa’s famous phrase: “better to change a little so that everything can stay the same.” And when we feel that the time has come for a change, we unconsciously begin to review a video showing us scenes of all our defeats up to that moment. Of course, as we grow older, our quota of difficult moments becomes all the more bigger.
But at the same time, experience has given us the means to overcome our defeats, come back out on top, and find a way that lets us carry on. We also need to watch that video in our mental videocassette. But be careful, because if we watch only the video with defeats, we will become paralysed. If we dwell on the video of experience, we will end up judging ourselves to be wiser than what we really are.
So it is better to have both films at hand. And when the time comes for a new step, close a circle and begin something different.
Will is a word that we should put under suspicion for a while. What are the things we don’t do because we really don’t have the will, and what are the things we don’t do because they are risky?
Here is an example of risk that we confuse with “lack of will”: talking with strangers. Whether it is flirting, a simple contact or unburdening ourselves — we rarely talk to strangers. And we always feel that “it’s better that way.”
We end up not helping and without being helped by life. Our distance makes us seem very important, very sure of ourselves, but in practice, we are missing the miracles that the angels put in our path.
Often “inner voice” is confused with “inspiration.” This is a mistake. We are always hearing interior voices, noises meant to distract us, make us lose contact with life. They never stay quiet, they never hush. Certain magical traditions say that our control over these voices is negligible.
Those who have ever experienced meditation know how true this is, and even those who have never meditated know that such voices exist (songs we sing mentally to ourselves, thoughts we can’t shake off, and so on). Only one thing can silence these voices: enthusiasm. When we are truly involved in the art of living, these tiny little interior voices stop talking such nonsense — and then we can hear the voice of our guardian angel, the voice of our heart, the voice of God.